“People don’t understand that when you come into any theatrical experience, you’ve got to come locked and loaded, that you’re a part of the experience, too. You can’t come with your arms crossed. Be open to it.”-Viola Davis
“All the best performers bring to their role something more, something different than what the author put on paper. That’s what makes theatre live. That’s why it persists.”-Stephen Sondheim
“In our own, theatre can be the place where we come together, reaching with and through stories, to who we are and to who we can be.”-Juliet Stevenson
“Youth theatre isn’t just about a precocious child that wants to sing and dance in front of people. It’s for everyone; it’s about a community, it’s about being supported by your peer group. You learn skills – not just acting but all the other sides – working in the TV, film, and theatre industry.”-Sam Heughan
“I remember a conversation with my parents about who the people on the TV were, and learning they were actors and they acted out this story and just thinking that was the most fantastic notion, and that’s what I want to do.”-David Tennant
“Don’t be ashamed to weep; ’tis right to grieve. Tears are only water, and flowers, trees, and fruit cannot grow without water. But there must be sunlight also. A wounded heart will heal in time, and when it does, the memory and love of our lost ones is sealed inside to comfort us.” ― Brian Jacques, Taggerung
“No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear.” ― C.S. Lewis, A Grief Observed
“Stop punishing yourself for being someone with a heart. You cannot protect yourself from suffering. To live is to grieve. You are not protecting yourself by shutting yourself off from the world. You are limiting yourself.” ― Leigh Bardugo, King of Scars
“Everyone grieves in different ways. For some, it could take longer or shorter. I do know it never disappears. An ember still smolders inside me. Most days, I don’t notice it, but, out of the blue, it’ll flare to life.” ― Maria V. Snyder, Storm Glass
“She heard him mutter, ‘Can you take away this grief?’ ‘I’m sorry,’ she replied. ‘Everyone asks me. And I would not do so even if I knew how. It belongs to you. Only time and tears take away grief; that is what they are for.” ― Terry Pratchett, I Shall Wear Midnight
“I believe in fiction and the power of stories because that way we speak in tongues. We are not silenced. All of us, when in deep trauma, find we hesitate, we stammer; there are long pauses in our speech. The thing is stuck. We get our language back through the language of others. We can turn to the poem. We can open the book. Somebody has been there for us and deep-dived the words.” ― Jeanette Winterson, Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal?
“Libraries are places where the damaged go to find friends” ― Tamora Pierce
“I never feel lonely if I’ve got a book – they’re like old friends. Even if you’re not reading them over and over again, you know they are there. And they’re part of your history. They sort of tell a story about your journey through life.” Emilia Fox
“It had been startling and disappointing to me to find out that story books had been written by people, that books were not natural wonders, coming of themselves like grass.’-Eudora Welty
Look, I have no excuses for the growing (pun intended) collection of office plants except that they make me super happy and proud that I’ve kept them alive. They give me oxygen, clean the air, and also provide dopamine. There are three plant ladies in my office and I gave some spiderwort to one of them so now both of our offices are exploding with them. She gives them away to people who even look remotely interested.
Heart Philodendron- this one started, if you can believe it, as a few struggling cuttings from my buy nothing group, as well as a very overgrown clearance plant from the fancy plant store. It’s doing really well at the office, as you can see! The cup was given to me last spring by a dear friend and it now stands as a memorial to her, as she passed away from unexpected health complications. It reminds me when I see both the mug and the new growth, to stop and appreciate my friends, family, and other blessings.
Shark Pot- Variegated, Hoya Spiderwort/Inch plant variety for the other two. I’ve killed two hoyas by not enough light and overwatering, so this is my last attempt at it, I think. This one seems hardier than the other two though, so I have high hopes for it. The big spiderwort was given to me by a coworker, who had a client come in with a cup full of water and these giant vines. My coworker said they wouldn’t grow well in her office because of the light, but knew I had other varieties of them. Who am I to refuse free plants?! Spiderworts are fascinating because they really follow the light and are very agile. They do eventually die out along the bottom of the plant and you have to keep cutting them to keep them under control so you just have a continuous stream of new plants.
Garden pot- Spiderwort variety (seriously, this thing will not quit, even though it looks a little sad. Be-leafing pot- Swiss Cheese Plant (mini Monestera): I’m surprised this one likes me! Nerve plant in the polka dot plant. These are so dramatic and I love them for it. They are actually pretty hardy as long as you water them when they start to droop. You can also see my accidental adventuring group, my fidget shark, a snail made from a shell, and a tiny clay fairy made by a friend on the side.
Ignore the messy shelf. It’s been a terrible month and I did just reorganize after taking the picture. The spider plant on the left has two babies! It also got some babies from a friend, so it’s got a stolen baby from my Mom’s plant, two from my friend’s plant, and then the rest is the original plant. You can’t see it well, but in the flamingo planter, there’s a zebra haworthia, which seems to be doing well. the Aloe plants are from a friend and I think I maybe overwatered it by accident, so it’s feeling a little rough. There’s a kalanchoe from a former intern in the blue patterned pot. More spiderwort in the grounded pot and in the rooting vase. A string of hearts that I haven’t killed yet (it’s maybe not so happy with me though,) and the original green variety of spider plant. I used to not like them, but as it turns out, I’m good with them, so I decided to try my hand at keeping a few. All the ones I stole from my mother (yes, she knows now, but I was sneaky at the time) are growing really well, so… I guess I like them now.
Once I rearrange my home houseplants, I’ll have to give you a tour of those as well. I think they have all adjusted to living in my house and I’ve got a reminder set to check if they need water twice a week. My office plants bring a lot of connection with clients, I’ve found, and they make my office seem more comfortable and homey as well. Most of the ones there haven’t done well at home, so I’m glad I’m able to bring them in and give them more space. I hope they bring you a little joy too!
As a bonus picture, this is what my coffee table looked like the day I had a few unexpected cancellations and decided to repot my spiderworts. You can see what they do in the white pot when the bottom leaves start to die off. Don’t worry, I did clean it all up and my table looks good as new. Lol.
“Never apologize for showing feeling. When you do so, you apologize for the truth.”-Benjamin Disraeli
‘Empathy is a tool for building people into groups, for allowing us to function as more than self-obsessed individuals.”-Neil Gaiman
“Reading is an exercise in empathy; an exercise in walking in someone else’s shoes for a while.”-Malorie Blackman
“Good fiction creates empathy. A novel takes you somewhere and asks you to look through the eyes of another person, to live another life.”-Barbara Kingsolver
February was the absolute worst month yet again, but this year pushed to reach even deeper lows. I hated it. It’s very hard to do anything when depressing or anxiety provoking things just happen one after the other. So to get myself back into the posting habit, I’m going to talk about my favorite fiction books of 2023. As usual, check the content notes or warnings on the author’s pages if you want to know if something is present or not. And if they aren’t your type, just scroll on by! In fiction last year, I read almost exclusively fantasy as my preferred genre. I think I needed more of an escape than I thought. I also read a lot more on my Kindle or Libby than previous years. There’s a lot of different books that I couldn’t find in print on it, so it’s been working out.
The Coven Of Ruin by T.K. Tucker- This was a book that I had read concepts and excerpts from online and I was very pleased when it held up to its reputation. It tells the fairly brutal story of a witch captured to fight in essentially the magical version of gladiator fights and Ares, the representation of the god of war, who saves her for reasons of his own. Definitely hit a lot of my boxes- strong female main character, drama, the “take on the world for you” vibes, and a storyline that was interesting and not rushed along just to publish faster. I would recommend it if you like the old school fantasy vibe. I think you can find it as a physical version, but I read it on my Kindle app. How gorgeous is the cover, by the way?
Grim and Bear It by Juliette Cross. This book!! This book had me in it’s grip the whole time, mostly because it was teased in all the other books in the series so that by the time it was actually out and written, I was a probably a little feral to know the story told in it. It’s about the youngest in a group of sisters who are magical, each with their own talent. Clara, the main heroine in this particular book has been in love with a guy for years, but he is refusing his own feelings for her. It’s a slower burn than the other books in the series, but I think that was effective in keeping me on the edge of my seat. This whole series- Stay a Spell, makes me feel so comfy and warm. I love the family dynamics and feel of the whole thing. There is magic and other supernatural creatures in the series. I would recommend starting from the beginning to get the full picture, but oh my gosh, this book is worth the wait.
Deus Ex Mechanic by Ryann Fletcher. This next book is Firefly, essentially, but with a more complicated stories and LGBQTIA representation. If you aren’t up for that, you will not like it, as the main characters are queer. I loved the pacing, the character descriptions, and the world building. It definitely read like space cowboys, except this one won’t get cancelled by Fox. I did end up buying the whole series, but haven’t read them all yet. I was exceptionally delighted by this one though! I read this on my Kindle.
After reading the first two in the Underground Series by Elm Jed, I preordered this one and then promptly made sure I took the time to truly savor it. It’s about the supernatural mobs, in particular the Werewolf Mob. I cannot say enough good things about Elm Jed. I follow them on socials and they are great to listen to and to draw inspiration from. They are a veteran as well and I appreciate how much they talk about mental health and how writing has helped them through some hard times. This book definitely has military PTSD symptoms described and discussed in detail so that is something to be aware of. The family relationships in this book are amazing and I will pretty much read anything written by Elm Jed. The books are spicy, but not super duper spicy, more in the romantic sense.
Spellbound by F. T. Lukens- This was a book from a new author and the writing style is very similar to T. Kingfisher. I picked it on a whim because the magic system sounded super interesting and then was immediately drawn in and charmed with the characters. It does have LGTBQTIA representation incorporated into the storyline and world, which I appreciated. It’s not spicy at all, but is romantic in parts. The story involves a non-magical young adult who is trying to find a way to still be involved with magic, as his grandmother was magical. Along the way, he encounters some interesting people and finds himself in all sorts of situations with a new frenemy along the way. I listened to this on Audiobook through Libby and it was super fun to listen to. The narrator was excellent!
Sweep With Me by Ilona Andrews-The Innkeeper series is a little bit weird, but also relaxing, so I do enjoy it. It’s become one of my regular audiobook series rotation. They are shorter novels, or novellas, so they do take less time to listen to and they move fast, so I always want to know the next thing happening in the story. So the general premise of this series is that the main character is an intergalactic Innkeeper who runs an inn for aliens and other beings that need to be on Earth for some reason. Her inn is sentient and forms a connection with her to create most of what she needs, physical space wise. The Inn functions as a neutral zone for meetings as well and she gets into some very interesting diplomatic situations. I would recommend this as a fun, cozy series. No spice, just romance.
T. Kingfisher is one of my newest favorite authors. Bryony and Roses made me giggle and snort laugh several times in the first chapter, so I knew it was going to be good. Strong female characters are my jam and as an extra bonus, Bryony is super sarcastic as well. This is a retelling of Beauty and the Beast and it’s a very interesting take on it. Sometimes retellings can fall very flat, but this one had extra elements that made it unexpected. I enjoyed it immensely. I listened to this one on audiobook too and really appreciated the narrator’s gift for character narrative.
I did have a couple of books that I didn’t like, or didn’t finish, but it was mostly for poor editing, or incompatible writing and reading styles. If I didn’t like it, it doesn’t generally get to take up space in my brain so I don’t even remember some of them! I’ve gotten better about allowing myself to DNF if I just can’t handle it. I think sometimes that is a hazard of reading on Kindle. Sometimes authors on there are not the most diverse in terms of storyline and not the cleanest in terms of editing.
Overall, I had an excellent reading year in 2023. For my Goodreads challenge, I had set a goal for 100 books and ended up finishing with 108 books read for the whole year. For 2024, I dropped that number to 80 books, mainly because I wanted to read quality over quantity and have been a little more discerning in what I read. I find I spend more time absorbing the book and less time skipping ahead.
I hope you enjoyed learning about the books I liked! Happy Reading!
I don’t normally choose to read a lot of non-fiction books as I don’t generally find them as engaging, but these next few books won me over.
Non-Fiction:
101 World Building Prompts by MD Presley: I enjoyed reading this book of tips for making new worlds. The author was really good with helping you think of new ideas and other things to consider. It was an easy and thoughtful read. I am currently writing a world for games based on a Nano idea and it’s been really fun to incorporate some techniques from the book and clarify my process. I can use this book for both personal use and for work stuff. Best part? I got it for free on Stuff Your Kindle day!
Disability Visibility Edited by Alice Wong: This was a book of short essays about disabilities and the ways they impact people who are just trying to live in the world not set up for them. I appreciated the new perspectives, the straight talk, and the reminders of things to do to help support others in general.
The Dressmakers of Auschwitz by Lucy Adlington: This book had a profound effect on me. I hadn’t known that a dress salon existed at Auschwitz or that it was an important point of resistance for the prisoners who were held there. The idea that clothes are something more than just fashion and body coverings, especially in a place where clothes could be the difference between life and death, is something I feel I should consider more as a sewist myself. My joke about sewing being a sought after skill during the zombie apocalypse feels a little flat after reading a book about women who were literally sewing for their lives. The history seen through the eyes of these ladies and the pictures and interviews with some of them in the book were amazing. The trauma and horror of war isn’t glossed over and has just enough of a statement of fact to drive home the facts of what these women suffered. I would highly recommend this book, just be prepared that it is not a light read.
Work Related:
Little Wizards by Antoine Bauza: This is a delightful first step into tabletop role playing games for both kids and parents who haven’t played before. It offers three stories with varying levels of instruction or suggestions for the Storyteller. They are all kid friendly and offer lots of different choices for how to investigate the mystery. I’m currently in the middle of the first one with a kid who is highly enjoying the novelty of solving the mystery. I really like the illustrations too- they are all adorable! Character customization is easy and you only need two 6 sided (regular cube) dice for it, so no special dice are needed. I would recommend this for probably 6-9ish? Maybe 10 if you added questing options or side quests. Check it out if you need something fun to do!
Kids on Bikes by Jon Gilmore and Doug Levandowski is a super cute and highly customizable tabletop role playing game system that is similar to Buffy the Vampire Slayer or more currently- Stranger Things. The general outline is that you are kids in a small town in a time before readily available google and cell phones and you have to solve a mystery that’s happening in your small town. Perhaps it’s aliens? Or maybe space monkies? Who knows? All you really know when you start the game is some rumors that you might start hearing about from the other players. This uses fancy dice, but is really open ended with just a few prompts and hooks to get you into the story. Then after that, the game master and players really take it away.
I’ve used it at work for one of my game groups and it went over pretty well. My players did the exact opposite of what I thought they were going to do most of the time, but that just kept me on my toes! It was fun to play and fairly easy to design characters and teach. I’m definitely keeping this in my work rotation.
Creative Therapy in the Sand by Roger and Christine Day is a sandtray therapy book with some general information and then some directive prompts to use in therapy sessions. Sandtray, while it is a little bit magical, can sometimes be hard to explain to people and this book does a good job of explaining the basics. I’m a big fan of sandtray and have used it myself to help me understand some of my more difficult things in life. I am always looking for more directives for sessions, so this was a good book to help prompt me with that. It’s definitely a small book though, so I wouldn’t recommend clinicians just use this with no other training.
I did read more non-fiction last year, but these were my favorite ones. This year, I hope to read some more of the books I keep buying for work and then not actually reading. Wish me luck!
These Therapets cards are all from the artist The Latest Kate, who you can find on Facebook, Instagram, and Redbubble! She creates them to help herself and others with their mental health.
